Hey Ya’ll!  Welcome to my blog.  As I pondered names for this blog, I had a few in mind:  Fucked Up and Starting Over, Suddenly Single and Done with Men, Cracked Wide Open and Searching for Me…. to name but a few.  Hear any anger?  Maybe a teeny bit. Bitterness!  Uh huh.  Resentment?  You bet.  But at the end of the day, all I’ve done is create maybe another (tiny) wrinkle and added to my brewing ulcer.  Not attractive girls, I’m here to tell you.  No one is worth ruining your mascara or your good soul. At the end of my day, all I really want is to unwind…unWINEd and pour a good Cabernet. Hence the birth of this blog.

As a newly single mom in my 40s opening not just a new chapter, but a brand spankin’ new book of my life, I’m trying to maneuver through unfamiliar, sometimes scary pathways.  And oh, I’m making mistakes along the way! But, the best part is, I’m figuring it out too. And it’s good stuff!  To coin the most cliché phrase ever, “it takes a village”. I certainly haven’t done this alone.  I have a group of the most clever, beautiful, intelligent, strong, insightful, dedicated girlfriends on the planet who have picked me up, fed me, ‘wined’ me, scolded me, dusted me off, loved me, and helped me regain me in this utterly difficult time.  I like to refer to them as my “emotional stylists”.  Talk about before and after photos! These girls are geniuses and I love them to pieces.

When I started going through this breakup almost a year ago of my nearly two decades long marriage, I was in shock girls!  I came completely unhinged! I thought I was alone, that no one could possibly feel the pain I was experiencing.  Boy, was I wrong!  It was just like buying a new car and thinking you are the only one who has it, then you hit the freeway and they’re everywhere!  Maybe a few different colors, but the same damn car.

I want to invite you to go through my new journey with me and I will share in yours. Everyday is a new day, not necessarily a better one, but it has potential. And there is something good in every single day.  You may need to look a little harder, but it’s there. Can’t wait to get to know you and bring you along for the ride!

Tammy

“Drink freely the wine life offers you and don’t worry how much you spill.”

Marty Rubin